This is a guide to being a healer of Shaiya.I'm am trying to give good advice that will help you create a character that from lvl 1-60 won't need a restat or a reskill. If you have just started playing a healer, then this is the portion you should read.You will learn useful informations from it.

*Help I'm starting a Normal Mode healer, where should I put my stat points and what kind of gear should I get  Shaiya Gold?

On a normal mode character, I would go full wis, no exceptions, 5 wis per lvl!
If you decide to create a different kind of healer then be prepared for

Normal mode healers are really no use in serious pvp, they die too fast. If they add a lot of rec, they may live longer but they won't be able to heal for a useful amount of HP, making it harder for them to be useful in pve parties.

Do NOT add int, it is a waist of stat points and can easily be added to gear, if needed!

If you go full wis on normal mode, then your healer will actually be useful later on, for boss killing and other pve situations.

Gear:

At low lvls a healer can get  Shaiya Gold decent starter gear from doing quests and I'd advise putting int lapis in that gear. It will help them solo grind a little, till they can get to a high enough lvl to the point when parties become available; it's a lot easier with the extra int. The best piece of armor you get at low lvl, is a lvl 25 heroic chest piece, most likely the rest of your gear will be noble, worship or just plain npc gear.

From now on, you should try getting heroic or dread equipment. Easiest pieces of armor to get  Shaiya Gold are lvl 43-46 heroics and lvl 29, 45, 46, 50 dreads. You can put 1 int, 1 rec and 1 wis lapis in most pieces of gear. Your torso should have 1 int, 1 mana and either 1 forbid or 1 hp lapis in it. You will probably find that this gear is good enough for you to continue with.

If you find it hard to get these equips, then just use plain NPC gear, till you can afford better.

Later on, if you decide to re-equip your healer with better gear. I would try to get  Shaiya Gold a dread set of gear. You should know by then what kind of lapis you want to put in it, depending on how you use your normal mode healer and your budget. The main lapis you should focus on, are wis and rec, letting you heal more and survive better. So if for instance you're healing someone for the Astaroth quest, you won't get instantly killed by his AoE attack, you will have time to pot and you'll heal your party member enough for him to survive the beating from Astaroth.